ALL SEASONS
Wedding Officiant
Beautiful Ceremonies for your special day
Serving Simcoe County & Muskoka Lakes Area

simple script
A wedding ceremony that is "Short and Sweet."
this is my most popular wedding script.

Who has the honour of presenting this woman to be married to this man?

INTRODUCTION:

We come together, not to mark the start of a relationship, but to recognize a truly special bond that already exists. This marriage is but one expression of the many, many ways that GROOM and BRIDE love one another.

It is one of life's richest surprises when the meeting of two people lead them to proceed together along a common path as husband and wife. It is one of life's finest experiences when a casual relationship grows into a permanent bond of love. This meeting and this growth bring us together today.

You are mature people who have established individual patterns of living. Yet you have found not only a need for companionship, but the satisfaction of that need in each other's company. It is this love, based upon a responsible understanding, that will aid you in creating out of your two lives, a marriage and a happiness you will share together

We remind you that you are performing an act of complete faith, each in the other; that the heart of your marriage will be the relationship you have created. In a world where faith often falls short of expectation, it is a tribute to these two who now join hands and hearts in perfect faith.

GROOM and BRIDE have come here to enter into the state holy matrimony. They have complied with Civil Law and are duly prepared to enter into this marriage. They will give their consent to each other, they will exchange solemn vows, and in token of this, they will each give and receive a ring.

If anyone present knows a reason why GROOM and BRIDE may not lawfully marry, you must declare it now or forever hold your peace.
GROOM and BRIDE, if either of you knows a reason why you may not lawfully marry, you must declare it now.

Reading – 1, Corinthians 13
If I speak well, if I have absolute faith, and if I dispose of all I possess, but have not love, I achieve precisely nothing.
This love of which I speak is slow to lose patience; it looks for a way of being constructive.
It is not possessive: it is neither anxious to impress nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own importance.
Love has good manners and does not pursue selfish advantage.
It is not overly sensitive. It does not keep an account of the wrongs of others but is glad when good happens to anyone.
Love knows no limit to its endurance, no end to its trust, no fading of its hope; it can outlast anything.
It is, in fact, the one thing that still stands when all else has fallen.
In this life we have three great lasting qualities - faith, hope and love.
And the greatest of these is love.

Minister:
GROOM, do you take BRIDE
to be your lawful wedded wife, to live together in the holy relationship of marriage? Do you promise to love her, comfort her, respect and cherish her, to care for her in all circumstances, and be faithful and loyal to her as long as both of you live?

GROOM: I do

Minister:
BRIDE, do you take GROOM
to be your lawful wedded husband, to live together in the holy relationship of marriage? Do you promise to love him, comfort him, respect and cherish him, to care for him in all circumstances, and be faithful and loyal to him as long as both of you live?

BRIDE: I do

(Optional) GROOM reads his wedding vows to BRIDE

(Optional) BRIDE reads her wedding vows to GROOM

GROOM:
I, GROOM, take you BRIDE to be my lawful wedded wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to honour, for the rest of our lives. This is my solemn vow.

BRIDE:
I, BRIDE, take you GROOM to be my lawful wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to honour, for the rest of our lives. This is my solemn vow.

Rings

Minister:
LORD, Bless these rings for they are a circle and are a symbol of eternity. They are a symbol of union. A symbol of holiness and of perfection. GROOM AND BRIDE, the rings you exchange and which you will wear are a symbol of a shared love which you are entering now, as husband and wife.

GROOM:
I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, my faith in our strength together, and my covenant to learn and grow with you.

BRIDE:
I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, my faith in our strength together, and my covenant to learn and grow with you.

Minister:
GROOM and BRIDE, you have joined yourselves to each other by solemn vows, signified by the joining of hands, and the giving and receiving of rings. By the authority vested in me under the Marriage Act of the Province of Ontario and the Grace of God, I declare that from this day until the end of all days, you are now husband and wife.

GROOM, you may kiss your Bride.

Signing of the Marriage Register
Minister: Ladies and gentlemen, let me present to you for the very first time, MR. & MRS. GROOM and BRIDE NEWLYWEDS


Religious
Christian wedding suitable to honor the tenants of God and the Holy Bible.

Who has the honour of presenting this woman to be married to this man?

Minister: Dear family and friends, on behalf of (BRIDE and GROOM) I welcome you all for this marriage ceremony. We are here today to encourage, celebrate and support the covenant these two people (BRIDE and GROOM) are going to make and to share in the joy that (BRIDE and GROOM) experience as they pledge their love and commitment to each other. We rejoice in the manner God has led them to each other and got them to the place where they now stand.

If anyone present knows a reason why GROOM and BRIDE may not lawfully marry, you must declare it now or forever hold your peace.
GROOM and BRIDE, if either of you knows a reason why you may not lawfully marry, you must declare it now.

Intentions

Minister: (To the groom), the woman who stands by your side is going to be your wife. She will look to you for comfort, for support, for love, for understanding, for encouragement, and for protection. You must never take her for granted, and always stand by her for good or ill.

GROOM: Today in presence of God, family and friends, I pledge to join my life with yours. With God's help I promise to provide, protect, respect and support you through all that life has to offer. I promise to stand by you through both good and bad times, in happiness and sorrow, come riches or poverty. You are God's beautiful gift to me and I will cherish you all my life!

Minister: (To the bride), the man who stands by your side is going to be your husband. He will look to you for comfort, support, love, understanding and encouragement. You must never take him for granted and always stand by him for good or ill.

Bride: Today in presence of God, family and friends, I pledge to join my life with yours. With God's help I promise to submit, respect, support and encourage you through all that life has to offer. I promise to stand by you through both good and bad times, in happiness and sorrow, come riches or poverty. You are God's beautiful gift to me and I will cherish you all my life!

Minister: In the Bible, Paul wrote beautifully about the power of love in his 1st book of letters to the Corinthians, Chapter 13.

"If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love."

Minister: (To the groom) Genesis 2: 22 says, "the LORD God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man." The woman who stands by your side is going to be your wife. She will look to you for unconditional love, support and comfort. You must always hold her very close to your heart.

GROOM: You are the one God has specially handpicked to be my beloved wife. I promise to nourish you mentally and physically. According to God's instructions, I pledge to leave my father and mother and cleave with you in every aspect of life. After the Lord, you will have the first place in my heart, till I breathe my last.

Minister: (To the bride), In Genesis 2:18, The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." The man who stands by your side is going to be your husband. He will look to you for unconditional love, support and comfort. You must be a true helpmate to him at all times, helping him with every burden of life.

BRIDE: You are the one God has specially handpicked to be my beloved husband. I promise to nourish you mentally and physically. According to God's instructions I pledge to leave my father and mother and cleave with you in every aspect of life. I will not only stand by you through every situation in life, but will also help you with every burden you face. After the Lord, you will have the first place in my heart, till I breathe my last.

Marriage Vows

Minister: (To the groom) Since it is your intention to marry, join your right hands and declare your consent. Do you take (BRIDE) to be your lawful wedded wife to have and behold from this day on, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, as long as you both shall live?

GROOM: I Do.

Minister: (To the bride) Do you take (groom's name) to be your lawful wedded husband, to have and behold from this day on, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, as long as you both shall live?

BRIDE: I Do.

Exchange of Rings

Minister: The wedding ring symbolizes unity, a circle unbroken, without beginning or end. And today (BRIDE and GROOM) exchange these rings as confirmation of their vows to join their lives, to work at all times to create a life that is complete and unbroken and to love each other unconditionally. May the Lord bless these rings which you give to each other as the symbol of your love and fidelity.

(To the groom), take this ring and place it on your bride's finger, and state your pledge to her, repeating after me:

"With this ring I thee wed.
I offer you my hand, and my heart as I know they will be safe with you.
All that I am I give to you and all that I have I share with you."

(To the bride), take this ring and place it on your groom's finger, and state your pledge to him, repeating after me:

"With this ring I thee wed.
I offer you my hand, and my heart as I know they will be safe with you.
All that I am I give to you and all that I have I share with you."

Closing

Minister: (BRIDE and GROOM) you have given and pledged your promises to each other, and have declared your everlasting love by exchanging the rings. Your vows may have been spoken in minutes, but your promises to each other will last until your last breath. As they have pledged themselves to meet sorrow and happiness as one family before God, this community of friends and By the authority vested in me under the Marriage Act of the Province of Ontario, I now pronounce them husband and wife. GROOM, You may kiss your bride.

Signing of the Marriage Register

Minister: Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you Mr. and Mrs. (Last Name).


non-religious
full of love and connectedness to celebrate your wedding in a special way.

Who has the honour of presenting this woman to be married to this man?

Wedding Officiant: Ladies and gentlemen, today we have gathered together to celebrate the marriage of (BRIDE and GROOM). Marriage is the promise between two people who love each other, who trust each other, who honor one another as individuals in that togetherness, and who wish to spend rest of their lives with each other. It enables the two separate souls to share their desires, longings, dreams, joys and sorrows, and to help each other through all uncertainties of life.

If anyone present knows a reason why GROOM and BRIDE may not lawfully marry, you must declare it now or forever hold your peace.
GROOM and BRIDE, if either of you knows a reason why you may not lawfully marry, you must declare it now.

Wedding Officiant: (Reading by Margaret A. Keip)
"Marriage has certain qualities of contract, in which two people take on the housekeeping tasks of living together, to enhance life's joy.

However, marriage is more than a contract. Marriage is commitment to take that joy deep, deeper than happiness, deep into the discovery of who you most truly are. It is a commitment to a spiritual journey, to a life of becoming - in which joy can comprehend despair, running through rivers of pain into joy again.

And thus marriage is even deeper than commitment. It is a covenant - a covenant that says:
I love you. I trust you. I will be here for you when you are hurting, and when I am hurting, I will not leave.

It is a covenant intended not to provide haven from pain or from anger and sorrow. Life offers no such haven. Instead, marriage is intended to provide a sanctuary safe enough to risk loving, to risk living and sharing from the center of oneself. This is worth everything."

Intentions

Wedding Officiant: (GROOM), will you take (BRIDE), to be your lawful wedded wife? Will you love, comfort, honor and protect her; forsaking all others to be faithful to her until death do you apart?

GROOM: I Do.

Wedding Officiant: (BRIDE), will you take (GROOM), to be your lawful wedded husband? Will you love, comfort, honor and protect him; forsaking all others to be faithful to him until death do you apart?

Bride: I Do.

Marriage Vows

Wedding Officiant: (To the bride and GROOM), repeat after me:
I, (GROOM) take you (BRIDE) to be my wife, and my better half. I will take care and cherish our relationship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I will always be open, honest, and faithful to you. I take you for my wife, to have and to hold from this day on, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish for all the days of my life and until my last breath.

I, (BRIDE) take you (GROOM ) to be my husband, and my better half. I will take care and cherish our relationship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I will always be open, honest, and faithful to you. I take you for my husband, to have and to hold from this day on, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish for all the days of my life and until my last breath.

Exchange of Rings

Wedding Officiant: (To the groom), repeat after me:
This ring, which has no beginning and no end, symbolizes the love and trust between us that will never cease. May its presence on your hand remind you of my love and vow. I place it on your finger as a visible sign of the promises which have made us husband and wife.

Wedding Officiant: (To the bride), repeat after me:
This ring, which has no beginning and no end, symbolizes the love and trust between us that will never cease. May its presence on your hand remind you of my love and vow. I place it on your finger as a visible sign of the promises which have made us husband and wife.

Wedding Officiant: Until now (BRIDE) and (GROOM) have spent each moment of their lives as separate individuals. But from this day on, and every day after this day shall be shared and spent as one. By the authority vested in me under the Marriage Act of the Province of Ontario, I now pronounce you husband and wife. (GROOM) You may now kiss your bride.

Signing of the Marriage Register

Wedding Officiant: Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you Mr. and Mrs. (Last Name).


interfaith
Different Faith Backgrouds? Christian and Muslim example can be adapted.

Who has the honour of presenting this woman to be married to this man?

We gathered today here in the presence of friends and family, together under God to celebrate the love which (BRIDE) and (GROOM) have for each other, to give social recognition to their decision to commit their lives and accept each other completely, to learn how to help and understand each other, to build a family, and together, to travel through life.

If anyone present knows a reason why (BRIDE) and (GROOM) may not lawfully marry, you must declare it now or forever hold your peace.
(BRIDE) and (GROOM), if either of you knows a reason why you may not lawfully marry, you must declare it now.

(OPTION 1) (BRIDE) and (GROOM) come from different faith backgrounds and now have chosen to share their love and commitment for one another.

OPTION 2: (BRIDE) grew up in a Christian family and (GROOM) in a Muslim family. The Jewish word for God is Eloah. The Arab word for God is Allah. Whatever words one might use to refer to God is not important. Whatever rites one might employ to celebrate God is also not important. Faith, is what is in your heart and all the good things you do because of it. .

READING:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

(OPTION 1) (GROOM), "Do you take (BRIDE) to be your wedded wife, to share your life openly, standing with her, in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, in hardship and in ease, to cherish and to love, so long as you both shall live?

(BRIDE), "Do you take (GROOM) to be your wedded husband, to share your life openly, standing with him, in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, in hardship and in ease, to cherish and to love, so long as you both shall live?"
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(OPTION 2) Minister: (To the bride and groom), repeat after me:
I, (GROOM) take you (BRIDE) to be my wife, and my better half. I will take care and cherish our relationship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I will always be open, honest, and faithful to you. I take you for my wife, to have and to hold from this day on, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish for all the days of my life and until my last breath.

I, (BRIDE) take you (GROOM) to be my husband, and my better half. I will take care and cherish our relationship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I will always be open, honest, and faithful to you. I take you for my husband, to have and to hold from this day on, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish for all the days of my life and until my last breath.
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Minister: Please say your vows: (optional vows or you can write and say your own to each other)
I, Bride, take you (GROOM), to be my husband, my best friend, my lover, my faithful partner and my other half from this day forward. I will cherish our union and love you more with each passing day. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, care for you and protect you. When I am moody and crabby I promise to not take it all out on you.. Most importantly, I give you my promise to love you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart, and all of my love, from this day forward for as long as I shall live.

I, (GROOM), take you, (BRIDE), to be my best friend, my lover, the mother of my children and my wife. I will be yours in times of plenty and in times of need, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sadness, in times of failure and in times of victory. I promise to cherish and respect you, to care and protect you, to comfort and encourage you, and to faithfully stay with you, for the rest of my life.

(OPTION 1) Minister: Do we have rings?
I (BRIDE) give you (GROOM) this ring as a symbol of my love and commitment to you.
I (GROOM) give you (BRIDE) this ring as a symbol of my love and commitment to you.
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(OPTION 2) Minister: (GROOM), repeat after me:
This ring, which has no beginning and no end, symbolizes the love and trust between us that will never cease. May its presence on your hand remind you of my love and vow. I place it on your finger as a visible sign of the promises which have made us husband and wife.
Minister: (BRIDE), repeat after me:
This ring, which has no beginning and no end, symbolizes the love and trust between us that will never cease. May its presence on your hand remind you of my love and vow. I place it on your finger as a visible sign of the promises which have made us husband and wife.
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By the authority vested in me under the Marriage Act of the Province of Ontario and by the Grace of God, I declare that from this day forward, you are now husband and wife.

(GROOM) you may kiss your bride.

Signing of the Register

Ladies and gentlemen, I am honored to present to you for the very first time Mr. and Mrs. (Last Name)


rose
Written by Neale Donald Walsh for new thought and consciousness couples.

Who has the honour of presenting this woman to be married to this man?

Minister: (GROOM) and (BRIDE) have not come here tonight to make a solemn promise or to exchange a sacred vow. (GROOM) and (BRIDE) have come here to make public their love for each other; to give notice to their truth; to declare their choice to live and partner and grow together- out loud and in your presence, out of their desire that we will all come to feel a very real and intimate part of their decision, and thus make it even more powerful.

If anyone present knows a reason why (GROOM) and (BRIDE) may not lawfully marry, you must declare it now or forever hold your peace.
(GROOM) and (BRIDE), if either of you knows a reason why you may not lawfully marry, you must declare it now.

They’ve also come here tonight in the further hope that their ritual bonding will help bring us all closer together. If you are here tonight with a spouse or a partner, let this ceremony be a reminder- a rededication of your own loving bond. We’ll begin by asking the question: Why get married? (GROOM) and (BRIDE) have answered this question for themselves, and they’ve told me their answer. Now I want to ask them one more time, so they can be sure of their answer, certain of their understanding, and firm in their commitment to the truth they share.

(Minister gets 2 red roses from the table…)

This is the ceremony of the roses, in which (GROOM) and (BRIDE) share their understandings, and commemorate that sharing. Now, (GROOM) and (BRIDE) you told me it is your firm understanding that you are not entering into this marriage for reasons of security...

… that the only real security is not in owning or possessing, nor is being owned or possessed…

… not in demanding or expecting, and not even in hoping, that what you think you need in life will be supplied by the other…

… but rather, in knowing that everything you need in life.

… all the love, all the wisdom, all the insight, all the power, all the knowledge, all the understanding, all the nurturing, all the compassion, and all the strength… resides within you…

… and that you are not each marrying the other in hopes of getting these things, but in hopes of giving these gifts, that the other might have them in even greater abundance.

Is that your firm understanding this afternoon? ((GROOM) and (BRIDE) say, “It is”)

And (GROOM) and (BRIDE), you have told me it is your firm understanding you are not entering into this marriage as a means of in any way limiting, controlling, hindering, or restricting each other form any true expression an honest celebration of that which is the highest and best within you- including your love of God, your love of life, your love of people, your love of creativity, your love of work, or any aspect of your being which genuinely represents you, and brings you joy. Is that still your firm understanding this afternoon?

(They say, “It Is”).

Finally, (GROOM) and (BRIDE), you have said to me that you do not see marriage as producing obligations, but rather as providing opportunities…

… opportunities for growth? For the full Self- expression, for lifting your lives to their highest potential, for healing every false thought or small idea you ever had about yourself, and for ultimate reunion with God through the communion of your two souls…

… that this is truly a Holy Communion… a journey through life with one you love as an equal partner, sharing equally both the authority and the responsibilities inherent in any partnership, bearing equally what burdens there be, basking equally in the glories.

Is that the vision you wish to enter into now?

(They say, “It Is”).

I now give you these red roses, symbolizing your individual understandings of these Earthly things; that you both know and agree how life will be with you in bodily form, and within the physical structure called marriage. Give these roses now to each other as a symbol of your sharing of these agreements and understandings with love.

(optional) (GROOM) reads his wedding vows to (BRIDE)
(optional) (BRIDE) reads her wedding vows to (GROOM)

Now, please each of you take this white rose. It is a symbol of your larger understandings, of your spiritual nature and your spiritual truth. It stands for the purity of your Real and Highest Self, and of the purity of God’s love, which shines upon you now, and always.

(Minister gives (GROOM) the rose with (BRIDE)’s ring on the stem, and (BRIDE) the rose with (GROOM)’s ring on it.)

What symbols do you bring as a reminder of promises given and received today?

(They each remove the rings from the stems, giving them to the minister, who holds them in his hand as he says…)

A circle is the symbol of the Sun, and the Earth, and the universe. It is a symbol of holiness, and the perfection and peace. It is also the symbol of the eternity of spiritual truth, love, and life… that which has no beginning and no end. And in this moment, (GROOM) and (BRIDE) choose for it to also be a symbol of unity, but not of possession; of joining, but not of restricting; of encirclement, but not of entrapment. For love cannot be possessed, cannot can it be restricted. And the soul can never be entrapped.

Now (GROOM) and (BRIDE), please take these rings you wish to give, one to the other.

(They take each other’s rings).

(GROOM), please repeat after me.

“I, (GROOM) ask you, (BRIDE)... to be my partner, my lover, my friend, and my wife… I announce and declare my intention to give you my deepest friendship and love… Not only when your moments are high… but when they are low… not only when you remember clearly Who You Are… but when you forget… Not only when you are acting with love… but when you are not… I further announce… before God and those here present… that I will seek always to see the Light of the Divinity within you… and seek always to share… the Light of Divinity within me… even, and especially… in whatever moments of darkness may come.

It is my intention to be with you forever… in a Holy Partnership of the soul… that we may do together God’s work… sharing all that is good within us… with all those whose lives we touch.

The minister turns to (BRIDE).

(BRIDE), do you choose to grant (GROOM)’s request that you be his wife?

(She answers, “I do.”)

Now, (BRIDE), please repeat after me.

“I, (BRIDE) ask you, (GROOM)... to be my partner, my lover, my friend, and my husband… I announce and declare my intention to give you my deepest friendship and love… Not only when your moments are high… but when they are low… not only when you remember clearly Who You Are… but when you forget… Not only when you are acting with love… but when you are not… I further announce… before God and those here present… that I will seek always to see the Light of the Divinity within you… and seek always to share… the Light of Divinity within me… even, and especially… in whatever moments of darkness may come.

It is my intention to be with you forever… in a Holy Partnership of the soul… that we may do together God’s work… sharing all that is good within us… with all those whose lives we touch.

(Minister turns to (GROOM).)

(GROOM) do you choose to grant (BRIDE)’s request that you be her husband?

(He answers; “I do”.)

Please then, both of you, take hold of the rings you would give each other, and repeat after me: With this ring… I thee wed… I take now the ring you give to me… (they exchange rings)… and give it place upon my heart…(they place the rings on their hands)… That all may see and know… all of my love for you.

(The minister closes…)

We recognize with full awareness that only a couple can administer the sacrament of marriage to each other, and only a couple can satisfy it. Neither my church, nor any power vested in me by the State, can grant me the authority to declare what only two hearts can declare, and what only two souls can make real.

And so now, inasmuch as you, (GROOM), and you, (BRIDE), have announced the truths that are already written in your hearts, and have witnessed the same in the presence of these, your friends, and the One Living Spirit- we observe joyfully that you have declared yourself to be… husband and wife.

Let us now join in prayer.

Spirit of Love and Life: out of this whole world, two souls have found each other. Their destiny shall now be woven into one design, and their perils and their joys shall not be known apart.

(GROOM) and (BRIDE), may your home be a place of happiness for all who enter it; a place where the old and the young are renewed in each others company, a place for growing and a place for sharing, a place for music and a place for laughter, a place for prayer and a place for love.

May those who are nearest to you be constantly enriched by the beauty and the bounty of your love for one another, may your days be good and long upon the Earth.

Amen, and Amen.

By the authority vested in me under the Marriage Act of the Province of Ontario and the Grace of God, I declare that from this day until the end of all days, you are now husband and wife.

(GROOM), you may kiss your Bride.

Signing of the Marriage Register
Minister: Ladies and gentlemen, let me present to you for the very first time, MR. & MRS. (GROOM) and (BRIDE) (Last Name)


native
Utilizing rituals found in indigenous people's customs and beliefs.

All the guests will be invited into the Medicine Circle - the Sacred Medicine Wheel that is symbolic of Life and the connection and Continuity of all living things. As they enter the Circle, they will be saged (cleansed and purified), and symbolically enter the womb. For when you leave the circle, you are reborn as anew: a married person - not just to each other, but to the family and the community, and they to you.
The Wedding party & parents will be in the center of the Circle, and will be saged. The Sisters/mothers will carry the baskets, and will hand them to the Bride & Groom during the Basket Exchange which symbolizes the tangibles of how the couple will take care of each other during their marriage.
The families and the guests in the Circle will be invited to come up and give a personal Blessing to the Couple, everything from a hug and kiss to reading a poem, or whatever. Everything is appropriate. This allows the Community to be a part of the Ceremony as well as symbolically welcoming them into the Community.
The Wedding Blanket is carried by sisters/siblings, and the tying of the Blanket symbolizes the Union of the two lives. It will be folded and carried to a safe place by the Mothers after the ceremony. It may not touch the ground until the Wedding has been consummated.
The Wedding Baskets: Basically, the baskets will contain whatever is symbolically important to you.
Bride's Basket: Groom's Basket: (both lined with cedar & covered with a red cloth)
Possible choices to include in basket: 2 ears of corn, Beef Jerky, 1 Squash or gourd Hide, Beans, Tobacco, Peaches, Grapes and Strawberries.
(Optional) Marriage Branch: Cedar branch with a fork, to be hung over the bed.
Circle: North: Elders, South: Young married couples & children, East: Young men, West: Veterans & warriors
There should be chairs for the elders who cannot stand.

Wedding Ceremony
Introduction by Minister, Sageing of all guests, and Wedding Party.

If anyone present knows a reason why GROOM and BRIDE may not lawfully marry, please declare it now or forever hold your peace.
GROOM and BRIDE, if either of you knows a reason why you may not lawfully marry, please declare it now.

(BRIDE), what do you provide for this union of marriage?
Mother of Bride will hand Bride the Bride's basket.
Bride: I provide these things to my husband and home. They are a symbol that I will care for you and love you always.
(GROOM ), what do you provide for this union of marriage?
Mother of Groom will hand Groom the Groom's basket.
Groom: I provide these things to my wife. They are a symbol that I will provide, love and protect our family always.

(Minister to Bride & Groom): You may exchange baskets.
Bride & Groom to set baskets in front of them, and hold hands.

~A Reading or a Native Blessing
Now you will feel no rain, for you will be shelter to each other.
Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two bodies, but there is only one life before you.
Soon you will go to your resting place, to enter into the days of your togetherness.
May your days be good and long upon the earth.

(To the Couple) ~A Native Blessing
Above you are the stars, below you are the stones.
As time does pass, remember;
Like a star should your love be constant.
Like a stone should your love be firm.
Be close, yet not too close.
Possess one another, yet be understanding.
Have patience with the other; for storms will come, but they will go quickly.
Be free in giving of affection and warmth.
Make love often, and be sensuous to one another.
Have no fear, and let not the ways of words of the unenlightened give you unease.
For the Great Spirit is with you, now and always.

Blessings by Family and Wedding Guests

Traditional Vows (if desired)

I, (GROOM) take you (BRIDE) as my wife.
I do solemnly avow my love for you. I will comfort you, keep you, love you, defend you in sickness or in health, in riches or poverty, in sorrow or joy, seeking only to be with you until death parts us. All these things I pledge upon my honor.

I, (BRIDE) take you (GROOM) as my husband.
I do solemnly avow my love for you. I will comfort you, keep you, love you, defend you in sickness or in health, in riches or poverty, in sorrow or joy, seeking only to be with you until death parts us. All these things I pledge upon my honor.

The Mothers will wrap the wedding blanket around Bride & Groom.

(RING BLESSING)
Circles have no beginning and has no end, and so in the long and sacred tradition of marriage rings have come to symbolize eternal love and endless union of body, of mind, and of the spirit... Aho!

(EXCHANGE RINGS)
This ring is a symbol of my love and faithfulness, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, and pledge to you my love and life.

(Blessing of the Baskets)
Father Sky and Mother Earth, creator
and nurturer of all life, we give heartfelt thanks for the moment that
brought (GROOM and BRIDE) together in the Holy State of Marriage.... Aho!

Now as you (GROOM) and you (BRIDE) have consented together in matrimony and have pledged your faith to each other by the giving and the receiving of these rings before your family and Community; by the authority vested in me under the Marriage Act of the Province of Ontario, I declare that from this day until the end of all days, you are now husband and wife.
GROOM, you may kiss your Bride.

Signing of the Marriage Register

Minister walks Bride & Groom to the blanket spread on the ground. Minister unties the Wedding Blanket.
Sisters will fold the blanket and put it in a safe place.

Optional:
(Groom): "This marriage branch is a symbol of our love for each other, and for our lives becoming as one."
Bride & Groom will notch the branch while Best Man gently shake the turtle rattle.
The drums will begin and guests will dance around the couple 7 times placing gifts on the blanket before them.
The Wedding Blanket is folded and tied by Bride & Groom and taken on the honeymoon. The blanket will not touch the ground until the marriage is consummated.

lgbt
A Simple Gender interchangeable "Short and Sweet" Ceremony

We come together, not to mark the start of a relationship, but to recognize a truly special bond that already exists. This marriage is but one expression of the many, many ways that PARTNER and PARTNER love one another.

It is one of life's richest surprises when the meeting of two people lead them to proceed together along a common path as Partners for Life. It is one of life's finest experiences when a casual relationship grows into a permanent bond of love. This meeting and this growth bring us together today.

You are mature people who have established individual patterns of living. Yet you have found not only a need for companionship, but the satisfaction of that need in each other's company. It is this love, based upon a responsible understanding, that will aid you in creating out of your two lives, a marriage and a happiness you will share together.

We remind you that you are performing an act of complete faith, each in the other; that the heart of your marriage will be the relationship you have created. In a world where faith often falls short of expectation, it is a tribute to these two who now join hands and hearts in perfect faith.

PARTNER and PARTNER have come here to enter into the state holy matrimony. They have complied with Civil Law and are duly prepared to enter into this marriage. They will give their consent to each other, they will exchange solemn vows, and in token of this, they will each give and receive a ring.

If anyone present knows a reason why PARTNER and PARTNER may not lawfully marry, please declare it now or forever hold your peace.
PARTNER and PARTNER, if either of you knows a reason why you may not lawfully marry, please declare it now.

Reading – 1, Corinthians 13
If I speak well, if I have absolute faith, and if I dispose of all I possess, but have not love, I achieve precisely nothing.
This love of which I speak is slow to lose patience; it looks for a way of being constructive.
It is not possessive: it is neither anxious to impress nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own importance.
Love has good manners and does not pursue selfish advantage.
It is not overly sensitive. It does not keep an account of the wrongs of others but is glad when good happens to anyone.
Love knows no limit to its endurance, no end to its trust, no fading of its hope; it can outlast anything.
It is, in fact, the one thing that still stands when all else has fallen.
In this life we have three great lasting qualities - faith, hope and love.
And the greatest of these is love.

Minister:
PARTNER, do you take PARTNER
to be your lawful wedded (Wife/Husband), to live together in the holy relationship of marriage? Do you promise to love (her/him), comfort (her/him), respect and cherish (her/him), to care for (her/him) in all circumstances, and be faithful and loyal to (her/him) as long as both of you live?

PARTNER: I do

Minister:
PARTNER, do you take PARTNER to be your lawful wedded (Wife/Husband), to live together in the holy relationship of marriage? Do you promise to love (her/him), comfort him, respect and cherish (her/him), to care for (her/him) in all circumstances, and be faithful and loyal to (her/him) as long as both of you live?

PARTNER: I do

PARTNER:
I, PARTNER, take you PARTNER to be my lawful wedded (Wife/Husband), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to honour, for the rest of our lives. This is my solemn vow.

PARTNER:
I, PARTNER, take you PARTNER to be my lawful wedded (Wife/Husband), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to honour, for the rest of our lives. This is my solemn vow.

Minister:
Bless these rings for they are a circle and are a symbol of eternity. They are a symbol of union. A symbol of holiness and of perfection. PARTNER AND PARTNER, the rings you exchange and which you will wear are a symbol of a shared love which you are entering now, as Partners for Life.

PARTNER:
I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, my faith in our strength together, and my covenant to learn and grow with you.

PARTNER:
I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, my faith in our strength together, and my covenant to learn and grow with you.

Minister:
PARTNER and PARTNER, you have joined yourselves to each other by solemn vows, signified by the joining of hands, and the giving and receiving of rings. By the authority vested in me under the Marriage Act of the Province of Ontario and the Grace of God, I declare that from this day until the end of all days, you are now Partners for Life.

You may now kiss.

Signing of the Marriage Register

Minister: Ladies and gentlemen, let me present to you for the very first time as a Married Couple, PARTNER and PARTNER.

handfasting
Combining traditions of old and new belief systems.

Officiant: We have come together here in celebration of the joining together of BRIDE and GROOM There are many things to say about marriage. Much wisdom concerning the joining together of two souls has come our way through all paths of belief and from many cultures. With each union, more knowledge is gained and more wisdom gathered. The law of life is love unto all beings. If we learn no more in life, let it be this. Marriage is a bond to be entered into only after considerable thought and reflection. As with any aspect of life, it has its cycles, its ups and its downs, its trials and its triumphs. With full understanding of this, BRIDE and GROOM have come here today to be joined as one in marriage.

If anyone present knows a reason why BRIDE and GROOM may not lawfully marry, please declare it now or forever hold your peace.
BRIDE and GROOM, if either of you knows a reason why you may not lawfully marry, please declare it now.
Others would ask, at this time, who gives the bride in marriage, but, as a woman is not property to be bought and sold, given and taken, I ask simply if she comes of her own will and if she has her family's blessing.
BRIDE, if is it true that you come of your own free will and accord answer “Yes, it is true.”
Bride: Yes, it is true.
Officiant: Family : Do you offer your blessings to BRIDE. If you do please say, “We Do.”
Those Gathered: We Do.

Officiant: Please join hands with your beloved and listen to that which I am about to say.

Above you are the stars, below you are the stones, as time does pass, remember... Like a stone should your love be firm like a star should your love be constant. Let the powers of the mind and of the intellect guide you in your marriage, let the strength of your wills bind you together, let the power of love and desire make you happy, and the strength of your dedication make you inseparable. Be close, but not too close. Possess one another, yet be understanding. Have patience with one another, for storms will come, but they will pass quickly.
Be free in giving affection and warmth. Have no fear and let not the ways of the unenlightened give you unease, for God is with you always.

Ring Ceremony
GROOM, I have not the right to bind you to you BRIDE, only you have this right. If it is your wish please say, “It is my wish.”
If it be your wish, say so at this time and place your ring in her hand.
GROOM: It is my wish.
Officiant: BRIDE, if it be your wish for GROOM to be bound to you, place the ring on his finger. (BRIDE places ring on GROOM's left ring finger)
BRIDE I have not the right to bind tyou to GROOM only you have this right. If it be your wish, say so at this time. ...and place your ring in his hand.
Bride: It is my wish.
Officiant: GROOM, if it be your wish for BRIDE to be bound to you, place the ring on her finger. (GROOM places ring on BRIDE's left ring finger)
Officiant: GROOM please repeat after me: I, GROOM, by the life that courses within my blood and the love that resides within my heart, take you BRIDE to my hand, my heart, and my spirit, to be my chosen one.

Officiant: BRIDE please repeat after me “I BRIDE, by the life that courses within my blood, and the love that resides within my heart, take you, GROOM to my hand, my heart, and my spirit to be my chosen one.

Handfasting Ceremony
Officiant: GROOM and BRIDE Is it also your wish today that your hands be fasted in the ways of old?” If this is true please answer “It is.”
GROOM and BRIDE: “It is.”
 
Officiant: “Remember then as your hands are fasted, these are not the ties that bind...”
 
(Stoll is held aloft)
 
Officiant: The role already taken by the song your hearts share shall be now be strengthened by the vows you take. All things of the material world eventually return to the Earth unlike the bond and the connection your spirits share which is destined to ascend to the heavens.
May you be forever as one in the passion and fire of you

Officiant: BRIDE and GROOM, please hold hands and look into each other's eyes.
(BRIDE'S left hand holds GROOM'S right hand)
Will you honor and respect one another, and seek to never break that honor? If this is true please answer “We Will”
GROOM and BRIDE: "We will."
Will you share each other's pain and seek to ease it?
GROOM and BRIDE: "We will."
Will you share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union?
GROOM and BRIDE: "We will."
Will you share each other's laughter, and look for the brightness in life and the positive in each other?
GROOM and BRIDE: "We will."

Officiant: BRIDE and GROOM, as your hands are now bound together, so your lives are joined in a union of love and trust.  The knots of this binding symbolize the vows you have made.  Like the stars, your love should be a constant source of light, and like the earth, a firm foundation from which to grow.

May this knot of love remain forever tied, and may these hands be blessed.  May they always be held by one another. May they have the strength to hold on tightly during the storms of life.  May they remain tender and gentle as they nurture each other.  May these hands build a relationship of love, caring, and devotion.  May BRIDE and GROOM see each other's hands as healer, protector, shelter and guide.

You are now as your hearts have always known you to be. By the power vested in me by God and the marriage act of the Province of Ontario, I now pronounce you Husband and Wife. May your love so endure that its flame remains a guiding light unto you.

GROOM You may kiss the bride!”

Signing of the Marriage Register

Officiant:To All who have gathered here let me introduce to you for the very first time Mrs. and Mr. BRIDE and GROOM (LASTNAME)


vow renewal
Focusing on exchanging promises and recommitting your love again for each other.

In celebration of a marriage that most often has ups and downs, a couple can reaffirm their commitment and love to one another with a vow renewal ceremony. This celebration of the heart allows for an opportunity to reflect on the milestones of their marriage and while looking ahead to many more wonderful years to come. A special vow renewal ceremony has much of the feel of having your wedding all over again. This time, as before, you can give your ceremony those special touches that allow you and your spouse to celebrate your love in front of family and friends.

Vow Renewal Sample One

 We are here today to recognize and celebrate the worth and beauty of love. (HUSBAND) and (WIFE) would like to make public their recommitment and rededication to the vows they made in their hearts, long ago.
When a commitment this strong is made by two people, the force of that commitment, of that love, of that courage, reaches out and touches all of, so we share a part of your love. Like a stone dropped in a small pond, the ripple of love from this celebration extends and changes the world we live in.

(WIFE) and (HUSBAND), you have taken into your care and keeping the happiness of the one person in the world whom you love best. You have added to your life not only the affection of each other, but also the companionship and blessing of a deep trust. You have agreed to share strength, responsibilities, and love.

In human history, we have not yet discovered a better way of life than sharing it together in a love that is lasting and responsible. Marriage meets our deepest human needs for love and companionship, for someone with whom we can share in an intimate and trusting way all the hopes, joys, and dreams of life.

Real love is something beyond the warmth and glow or the excitement and romance, of being deeply in love. It is caring as much or more about the welfare and happiness of your partner as about your own. Real love is not total absorption in each other; it is looking outward in the same direction together.
Love makes burdens lighter because you divide them. It makes joys more intense because you share them. It makes you stronger so you can be involved with life in ways you dare not risk alone.
(HUSBAND) and (WIFE), you entered into marriage because you want to be together. You have found that your love has grown more in happiness and love more fully as life mates.

No greater blessing of happiness can come to you than to have this devoted love, which you now publicly avow. Continue this understanding of your marriage in the days ahead. May your love continuously grow more wonderful with each day you enjoy together.

Do you, (HUSBAND), take (WIFE) to be your Wife? To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness in health, to cherish with devoted love and faithfulness for so long as you both shall live?
(HUSBAND): I do.
Do you, (WIFE), take (HUSBAND) to be your Husband? To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to cherish with devoted love and faithfulness for so long as you both shall live?

(WIFE): I do.

You exchanged rings long ago. Please spend a moment to look at them now.

The ring you see on your finger is a circle, which is the symbol of eternity. It has no beginning and no end, like time. It returns to itself, like life. The hole in the center of the ring is not just space; it is the symbol of a gateway, or door; leading to things and events both known and unknown.

The journey you’ve made together has been full of hills and valleys. You’ve held on together and mastered all the curves, detours, obstacles and hopefully smelled some roses along the way.

These rings are not locks binding you together, but they are keys, unlocking the secrets of your hearts for each other to know, and thus bringing you closer together forever.
(HUSBAND) and (WIFE), may the love you have found grow in meaning and strength with each passing day. May your love always be as warm as the sun, as forgiving as the ocean and as enduring as the mountains. May the flow of your love help brighten the face of the earth.
Inasmuch as you, (HUSBAND), and you, (WIFE), have repeated your vows of love and commitment to each other, and have pledged to continue your life’s journey together from this day forward, I am delighted to pronounce you Husband and Wife.
(HUSBAND), you may now kiss your Wife.

Vow Renewal Sample Two

Today (HUSBAND) and (WIFE) you have been married for (? ?) years - your (? ?) celebration. Your main responsibility to bring up your children is now over and you have reached the stage in your relationship where you are rebuilding your life as a couple. This evening when you renew your marriage vows you can look forward with confidence to a new era in your life.

In the coming decades you will be able to concentrate on building your love for each other free from the tensions and worries involved in establishing yourselves financially and nurturing a growing family. Your children are here tonight to give you their blessing for your new life and to thank you for all your generosity, love and support over the last (? ?) years.

Tonight is a night when you reassure each other. When you are expressing to each other deep loyalty and loving trust as the basis of your marriage relationship.

Both of you believe in marriage - in the fullness of the husband and wife relationship and you know that a deep bond unites you both. It must do so because of what you have been through together - all the stresses and tensions of the past have not weakened your love but have only made you more determined to stick by each other. This relationship is and must be very deep. Tonight's re-commitment should encourage you both to be more dedicated to each other so that you can look forward to a settled and enjoyable future.
Vows

Husband: (? ?) years ago, I, (HUSBAND) took you, (WIFE) to be my lawful wife, to have and to hold, from that day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health. This day I re-affirm that vow.

(Bride) (? ?) years ago, I (WIFE) took you, (HUSBAND) to be my lawful husband, to have and to hold, from that day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health. This day I re-affirm that vow.

(HUSBAND) and (WIFE), just as two very different threads woven in opposite directions can form a beautiful tapestry, so can your two lives merge together to form a very beautiful marriage. To make your marriage work will take love. Love should be the core of your marriage; love is the reason you are here. But it also will take trust - to know in your hearts you want the best for each other. It will take dedication - to stay open to one another; to learn and to grow together even when this is not always so easy to do. It will take faith - to always be willing to go forward to tomorrow, never really knowing what tomorrow will bring. And it will take commitment - to hold true to the journey you both now pledge to share together.

(HUSBAND) and (WIFE), in so much as the two of you have agreed to live together in matrimony, have promised your love for each other by these vows, And now having heard you make these pledges of your affection, I now declare you to be Husband and Wife again.

Congratulations, (HUSBAND) you may kiss your Wife.

Vow Renewal Sample Three

Welcome & Opening

Good relationships never stop growing. Like fine wine, they get better with age. (HUSBAND) and (WIFE), you have now been married (? ?) years and through all the years of your journey together, you have now come to this beautiful setting, so that you could renew your vow and commitment of love for each other.

No marriage is perfect. As you continue in this union, you already know that it will continue to take a lot of love and work to keep your relationship an ongoing success.

Words of Wisdom

(WIFE) and (HUSBAND) have learned a lot about love in the past (? ?) years. I think they would agree with these words, translated and paraphrased from a Chinese text written in the 1st century:

"The key to love is understanding ... The ability to comprehend not only the spoken word, but those unspoken gestures, the little things that say so much by themselves.

The key to love is forgiveness .... to accept each others faults and pardon mistakes, without forgetting, but with remembering what you learn from them.

The key to love is sharing ... Facing your good fortunes as well as the bad, together;both conquering problems, forever searching for ways to intensify your happiness.

The key to love is giving ... without thought of return, but with the hope of just a simple smile, and by giving in but never giving up.

The key to love is respect ... realizing that you are two separate people,
with different ideas; that you don't belong to each other, that you belong with each other, and share a mutual bond.

The key to love is inside us all ...

It takes time and patience to unlock all the ingredients that will take you to its threshold;it is the continual learning process that demands a lot of work ... but the rewards are more than worth the effort ... and that is the key to love."

Vows:

(HUSBAND) and (WIFE), I remind you that marriage is a precious gift; a lifelong dedication to love and a daily challenge to love one another more fully and more freely.

With this understanding, do you (HUSBAND), continue to take (WIFE) as your beloved wife? Will you continue to be a tender, faithful husband? Will you continue to love and cherish her, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, for better for worse, and keep yourself only unto her?

Husband: I DO

With this understanding, do you (WIFE), continue to take (HUSBAND) as your beloved husband? Will you continue to be a tender, faithful wife? Will you continue to love and cherish him, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, for better for worse, and keep yourself only unto him?

Wife: I DO

Rings:

(HUSBAND) and (WIFE) have rings as the outward symbols of their ongoing commitment to each other.

(HUSBAND), hold (WIFE)'s hand, touch her ring, symbolically giving it to her again, and say to her these words:

“From this day on, I recommit myself to you, and this ring is a symbol of my pledge.”

(WIFE), hold (HUSBAND)'s hand, touch his ring, symbolically giving it to him again, and say to him these words.

“From this day on, I recommit myself to you, and this ring is a symbol of my pledge.”

Let these rings serve not as locks binding you together, but as keys, unlocking the secrets of your hearts for each other to know, and thus bringing you closer together forever.

Closing

As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember these things:

Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.
Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses you give your friends.
Let your love be stronger than your anger.
Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.
Believe the best of your loved ones rather than the worst.
Confide in your partner and ask for help when you need it.
Say "I love you" often.

Pronouncement:

(HUSBAND) and (WIFE), having witnessed your vows of affirmation with all who are assembled here, and by the authority of love itself, I do affirm that you have expressed your desire to continue as husband and wife.

Kiss:

You may seal your vows with a kiss.

Presentation:

Ladies and gentlemen, it is my honour to present to you, once again as husband and wife, (HUSBAND) and (WIFE) (LAST NAME).

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